At 14, I had a really awful relationship with my parents. It was very much put on my sister and me that she was the studious, intellectual, academic one, and I was the athletic, fun, cute one. And that really influenced my not thinking very much about myself.

I wasn't going to go to college, I wasn't going to have a career, because I wasn't smart enough. My sister was always driven to do well - you get this paper done today, and you get an A on it, and eventually you're going to go to a good school, and you're going to go to college, which means you'll get a phD and have a career and be successful. And where was I? What's going to happen to me? Am I going to grow up, get married, raise babies and placate my husband?

I watch what goes on today as far as all these career women showing their daughters, 'You can be anything you want to be, and you can do anything that you want to do.' And I feel like I was never told that you have a future beyond what you do today.

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